Rekindle your first love ….

This coming week flower vendors, candy shops and card makers all over the world will be making a kill as we celebrate Valentines Day.

This ‘annual day of love’ means different things for different people. For the lucky ones it is time to receive a flower bouquet (at times the only one in the year), dinner date or better still get the first date from a suitor. There are men who also wait for this day to pop the ‘will you marry me’ question.

Sadly though, valentines is also the day that bad things happen to love. It is among the days that many breakups happen, probably because some men never did anything to prove their love. In desperate search for love some girls end up losing their precious virginity to trigger happy men who disappear as fast as day break of February 15.

This weekend I imagine a number of men are feeling the heat as most women will not let this day just go. But all in all it is a day to make those we love feel special.

My wife has suggested that we keep it simple this year and have our fun in the house. Her thoughts sent me thinking of what would encompass simple but romantic moments. You see at times we are consumed with the glamorous public display of love that everyone is doing and forget to concentrate on growing our love.

Whereas Valentines day offers an opportunity to celebrate love, fixation on what our lovers should do for us makes us lose its meaning.  If it’s only a gift my partner wants I don’t need to think twice about it, I will just walk to supermarket and will be spoilt for choice from the red packages on offer.

Valentines should be about celebrating each other and this year I choose to revive our first love. My valentines shall be about rekindling good memories and picking up simple love habits from my past.

Since our discussion with my wife I have tried walking down the road and its becoming exciting the simple things I can revive. Instead of getting fixated on just the valentine gifts and treats take a journey down memory lane and search for your first love habits. Think of the things you use to do that have now been forgotten and resurrect the fun in your love.

Despite the many years we have been in love we are never too old for fun. Remember the Simple picnics and coffee dates you had when you dated. Talk about the dinners and weekend away you enjoyed during your first years of marriage. This valentines is a perfect time to revive these and keep them flowing for the rest of the year.

Valentines should not be the solitary day to show love the entire year but a day to commemorate it. If you do it for the season it will end with the season.

Wearing that sexy dress for him, a candle-lit dinner and giving him that special gift does not have to end with valentines day, keep doing them after this. Men need to know that the love they show during valentines through flowers, chocolate or a special dinner is also needed after February 14.

Valentines should not end with the treats and gifts; it should resurrect the passion in our love. Then it will be love all year around…