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Man’s Divine Responsibility to his woman, family

Being a man is not in masculinity but in fulfilling one’s responsibilities to his family and society.

Manhood is exhibited in ones responsibility to his woman (girlfriend or wife) and his children. By extension a man has a responsibility to his extended family and society.Being a man is not the giving orders in your house or just paying bills but the commitment to being present and influential in the lives of those people who matter.

In our church we have been doing a series on family and last Sunday’s sermon was on manhood and the preacher did leave a lasting impression about this.

He summarized the role of a man into five critical responsibilities which I thought I should share:

1.       Priest

A man should offer spiritual nourishment to his family or relationship. He should lead the reading of scripture, praying together and even praying over his family. In good times and bad times the man should know that his family is looking up to him. My late father never forgot to say “If God wills” at the end of every family plan we had. This made us look unto God for everything. It is tragic when the man in the house has no reference for God.

2.       Prophet

When a man understands the depth of being a prophet in his life he cares the words he says to his woman and children. A man should learn to prophesy good things to the future of his family. He sees the potential in them and speaks God’s favor into it. He sees the weakness in the people that he loves and encourages and helps them to overcome these.  If a man has to correct he should always do this in love and never curse. It is sad when all a man does is to curse his woman and children.

3.       Present and involved

A responsible man is present and involved in the lives of his girlfriend or wife and children. No matter how busy his job is a responsible man will always create time to be with those people who matter. He will also seek ways to be involved in their lives. He will want to know how they are doing and influence and them when need be.

4.       Provider

A man’s divine role is to be a provider for his family. There is no excuse to this. Everyday a responsible man will work hard to ensure that the needs of his family are met. Whereas the woman in his life should help in this it is the man’s primary duty. A man can use the resources of his wife to multiply their earnings but should never escape his responsibility because the wife is earning as much or more. A responsible man goes beyond today’s needs and plans for the needs of tomorrow. He should be the leader in family savings, investments and planning.

5.       Protector

There is an intrinsic capability put in men by God to protect those people around him. A responsible man protects his girlfriend or family from dangers of this world. When life gets tough a responsible man doesn’t run away but instead stays around and helps figure out a way out of it. A responsible man shields his woman and or kids from the dangers within, that of in laws, friends or enemies.

For the men out there this is a reality check on what it takes to add value to the woman and or children in your life. For the women it could act as a guide on the way to pray and encourage your man if you already got one or a checklist if you are looking for a man.

  1. catelina
    August 8, 2013 at 7:40 am

    Keep up, you are such a blessing to many. God bless

  2. Tom B. Sawyer
    June 3, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    I like this , and want you to send me subscription.

  3. Wanjiku
    April 11, 2013 at 9:53 am

    Kagiri,why don’t you put together an interdenominational conference for men and put together all that concerns you guys.We will pay the fees for them to come over,just guide our generation of men on this surely trying role of being a man.

    • April 11, 2013 at 11:18 am

      Thanks for the suggestion, we should work on it

  4. Bonnie
    September 13, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    This is exactly true. I have tried this in my family and my personal life as a man, husband and father, and, truly it works. That defines a man.

  5. Edwin kipyegon korir
    September 7, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    Yeah gud motivations lke it

  6. Wanjala
    September 5, 2012 at 1:40 pm

    Wonderfull advice and reminder.

    September 4, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    True. The man is indeed the head of the family jst as Christ is the head of the church.

  8. September 3, 2012 at 1:43 pm

    when 1 takes a step 2 change,its so right if the mind n ze heart agree,to mak zat step. If u feel zat lyf aint worth living go 2 a solitude place n think of ze pple who matr 2 u, think of wat u’ve achieved n wats ur purpose in lyf! Wen u think u knw 2 much, think of wat u r in ze eyes of God, dirst! U r nothing without God! As a woman mak ur man proud, coz ur dignity is his pride n trust! Ask urself, y dont beautiful pple nt talk 2 much? Coz wat u see sayz it al! Dont praise urself lets see wat u can do! WE AR WATCHING!!!

  9. Patrick Maina
    August 30, 2012 at 4:19 pm

    I am not one to get manly advice from ladies. but i am wise and humble enough to know when my Father (God) breaths through one of His beloved creations.

    This is a brilliant piece and you are doing such a wonderful job.
    I can only glorify my Father for the blessing of your writing.
    Matthew 5:16
    Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

    Yours is shining bright. God bless

  10. Bee
    August 28, 2012 at 11:54 am

    This is so true but sadly men of today have shunned their God given responsibilities to Women. Prayer is the key to bring them back to what God created them to be.

  11. August 27, 2012 at 12:51 pm

    I like this. So true…..

  12. Juma
    August 27, 2012 at 10:25 am


  13. cecilia
    August 27, 2012 at 9:03 am

    good article.keep up.

  1. August 28, 2012 at 5:19 am

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