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Beauty, success not good foundation for marriage

The glorification of materialism is affecting the way we love. We are in a world where the kind of car he drives, the places he hangs out, how curvy she is or the kind of car she drives are top on the list when  considering someone to date.

One wonders what happened to the old way of looking at the character first and the connecting of hearts before anything else.

A model

A model

I am not oblivious to the fact that every woman wants a stable man and every man desires a stunning woman by their side. I however question the trend of making these two aspects the pillars of love. When you look at these two they are hollow aspects that have no foundation and won’t keep love going for long. They are temporary aspects. He might have a good job today, but there is no assurance it will last. On the other hand he might have a small job today but tomorrow he might be a business owner.

When focus on the temporary aspect of what he has now, we miss on the more critical consideration of his passion, his vision and more important his devotion. If we can’t go beyond the veil of how much he has, we are not able to relate with the real him, all we get to love is what he has and not who he is. Even when a man who has means genuinely loves you, one is unable to enjoy that love if the reason to be attracted to him was his money.

Men who concentrate on the looks miss out on the other good aspects of the precious sisters. When you relate with a woman beyond how she looks you get to appreciate the greatness in God’s creation. As the bible puts it, “Whoever finds a wife, finds a good thing and receives favour from God.” Beyond her looks is greatness and many good things. Just look at the difference many wives bring in the lives of their men when the two genuinely love each other. You will trace this in the way he dresses, his health, his performance at work and even their financial capacity.

He might not any investments, but perhaps your touch is what he needs to learn organise his finances better and get there. The good thing about marrying such a man is that when you base your relationship on genuine love, you can work on the money aspect as long as he is committed.

Love is about caring for each other

Love is about caring for each other

She might not be the head turner of the estate but the warmth of her heart and care will keep your heart turning every minute of the day.

At the end of the day, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the lord will be greatly praised! – Proverbs 31:30”


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