The glorification of materialism is affecting the way we love. We are in a world where the kind of car he drives, the places he hangs out, how curvy she is or the kind of car she drives are top on the list when considering someone to date.
One wonders what happened to the old way of looking at the character first and the connecting of hearts before anything else.
What do you do when he is not all mushy mushy like you would want?
I have had two heated discussion on this question in the last week. Two of my friends in what many would consider happy relationships feel they are missing something in their relationships.
“He is a good provider and is usually at home with us but he won’t touch me suggestively in public or even hold my hand,” complains one of them.
In a separate conversation Jane* adds: “He is a focused man and he is even building a home for us and won’t forget my birthday but sometimes I want a gifts a little more often.”
That marriage is a 50-50 affair is one of the most misused statements in modern day marriage.
Many young people get married with the perception that what they do for their partner will be determined by how much their partner does for them. Unfortunately this principle of “give me so that I can give you” takes from marriage instead of growing it. It makes marriage more of a transaction than a relationship. Read more…
Many of us are clueless when it comes to ending a relationship. Some have crashed their love trains in the crudest of ways. From people ending it via a text, emails of whatsapp message to others sending emissaries, the modern person is clueless on how to end it. It is however important to end a relationship in a more kind and mature manner.
Don’t fake it
It is good to personally meet your partner to end the relationship, don’t use a text, email or a phone call. All these shows lack of respect for them. Secondly when you finally decide to tell your partner about the breakup don’t hide behind the “it’s me with the problem, not you,” excuse. This line is too old to be used. Secondly everyone knows it is a lie. A little honesty would do, just say you two couldn’t work out because of one or two differences. Don’t shy off from saying the reasons but be kind when saying it.
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Wedding planning is one of the most stressful moments for couples planning to get married.
One of the biggest risks of this process is making enemies from your friends especially when you bother them with too much. Let’s share a few tips on how to deal with your friends so as not to bother your friends too much. First holding meetings every week to talk about the same things gets boring. If you have attended a wedding committee people’s commitment wanes as meetings progress. You will also notice that more people attend the first meetings and the last one. Not to bother people, avoid too many meetings and just have enough. Read more…
We have seen wives of prominent men apologizing to the public on behalf of their spouses who were caught on camera with torn socks. I am often surprised by the number of women who condemn such women saying that “he is the one who picked the torn socks not me.”
Let us flip it a little bit and bring it closer home. Imagine this scenario, your husband leaves home well groomed and you even tell him how handsome he looks. Later in the day a friend or a colleague sends you a whatsapp photo of his torn socks or a shirt missing a button. What would you do? apologise, badmouth him or say nothing? Read more…
In our culture women are not supposed to pursue a man let alone propose. Men are supposed to be in charge, to know what they want and to pursue it. Women on the other hand are to be passive and wait for the man of their dreams to come along. But what happens when that man you love lacks the courage to either ask you out or even propose?
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