Massage His Ego, Grow His Commitment

Men do not marry a woman because of her beauty; they marry a woman because of how they “Feel” in her presence, said one Dr Mike Murdock.

Whereas men derive their confidence and self esteem from their career and achievement his woman remains the single most enhancer of his self esteem.

There is never a middle ground on this; you either have a man who is always enthusiastic to tell you plans for the family, career, business and other dreams or a timid gentleman.

Those men who have been belittled at home either remain quiet at home or become runaway husbands with the bar, office and mistresses being their escape destinations.

Your man has got an ego, safeguard it

I know many women hate hearing the word, ‘ego’ but that is a critical aspect of a man. His ego builds the pride in your man to be responsible, take care of his family and protect it. The greatest responsibility of a woman is to safeguard her man’s ego.

If you want to chase him away keep bruising his ego, if you want him to perform his best in his responsibilities keep affirming him. Men are not necessarily looking for a stunning beautiful woman, but a secure and confident lady who will respect them.

Just like women want to be valued, pampered, taken out and their feelings understood men love it when their ego is Massaged

Avoid shouting him down

Many women lie to themselves that by shouting at their men they will tow them into line but in most cases it doesn’t. Just like the women love it when their men listen to them when they are offloading, men appreciate to be listened to during a conflict resolution moment. You don’t win by shouting him down, you lose him.

It helps when you listened to his side of the story even when you think you are right instead of tearing down what they are saying midway. There is no man so insensitive that they can’t understand your views when addressed with respect. Shouting your man down will more likely bruise his ego, send him to quietness and eventually send him away from your house.

Whereas women love letting out when they are angry but your man is not your door mat to tell all the bad words in your heart. All of us get angry the difference is what we do with it.  If you can’t control your anger learn to hold your words till you have cooled down.

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Be a good host

Everyman wants to build a successful family, more so we all want to portray this to friends and family. Besides their ego, men’s confidence is boosted by the ability to bring up a successful marriage

Every man prides in a warm home created by the woman of their dreams. Serving his visitors warmly feeds his pride and earns you extra points. When his friends and family are around your man is looking up to you to be a good host. Build his confidence by putting your best foot forward in making his visitors comfortable.

Whether he cooks for you and cleans utensils when his friends and family members are around is not the time to ask him to do so. He wants to create the impression that he has a lovely responsible woman by his side.

Your man’s confidence and responsibility is boosted by your affirmation, respect and encouragement.

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