Make your spouse your life Coach …

We have a new year to once again make it happen in our lives.

I imagine most of us are focusing to achieve great milestones this year and are fired up this month to make them work. However history has shown that as the year progresses the fire dims to lukewarm and dies off slowly towards midyear. That is why this year I am willing to take a different approach that has worked for me in the past; having my spouse as an accountability partner.

Making your spouse/lover your accountability partner means involving him/her as you set your goals and growing from their support along the way. This doesn’t mean policing each other but rather supporting each other to become better.

Whether it is a spouse, a girlfriend or boyfriend the person you love is an asset to your growth in career, family life and even ministry. The good thing about it is that as long as you have a good relationship there is a commitment to help each other soar higher in all aspects of life.

The starting point is the trust we have for each other which builds onto our openness and vulnerability. This way we go to our loved ones in confidence with the aim of getting their support as we offer the same and grow together.

As you begin the year take time to share your personal and corporate goals and set benchmarks for monitoring their progress and achievement. Have no limits to what you can share and offer support for, share all aspects of your life from love life, work, church, community engagement and or business.

Start off with sharing individual goals. Here your loved one sits on the observer seat and helps you focus. What you are seeking here is genuine support and critic. You then exchange positions enabling each other to share their heart out and reciprocate observer support.

Families who soar high have learnt to set corporate family goals for the year and beyond.  Here is where the rubber meets the road as the two of you bring on the table your thoughts. Be keen to be guided by goal of making a better family and not to outshine each other. Incorporate in them wholistic growth of your marriage and family.

Learn to listen more and critic later while accommodating the views of your partner. Be bold to speak your mind but don’t be unrealistic to expect your partner will nod all the way. It is never easy bringing together the minds of two independent adults but in the long run it helps you achieve more together than you would have achieved alone.

The beauty of involving someone else in your plans is that they are able to see things from a different perspective. Our partners are able to see the other side that we often miss and help us cover all bases. With love being a commitment lovers are able to point out what they think won’t work or will derail our plans. Whereas they don’t have the fountain of wisdom they quicken us to think broader and help us to focus our energies on efficient things.

Secondly we enrich each other’s plans. It is amazing the energy that unity breathes into our ambitions; it is more than double what we can manage alone. Take this journey and help each other make and achieve better resolutions this year!