She wants accountability not your space!

The desire of women to be involved in what their partners are doing has often been misinterpreted as wanting to control their men.

Whereas men feel their women are invading their space, women feel misunderstood since all they want is to be involved. For them, they want to do it together. This is a conflict that has brought down grand ideas and broken many marriages. Where there is lack of consensus, you have couples who are couples by name but each person has their own life. You will find the each partner has projects and properties that the other isn’t aware of.

Times when your man needs some space

Women love doing things together with their partners, men on the other hand want some space and independence. I call it the battle of “give me some space” vs “it is our space.”

This pull and push has taken away the joy that young people get into marriage with. On one side you have a woman who feels like her man doesn’t appreciate her thoughts and opinion while on th other side you have a man who thinks his woman wants to control everything he does.

This battle however doesn’t have to happen.  Partners can overcome it if they appreciated each other’s needs and why each of them has justified claims to this ‘space.’ Today let us talk about what men mean by getting some space.

Whereas women have a genuine reason for wanting to share in what their spouses are doing, it is important to appreciate that men on the other hand have an innate desire for freedom.

In spending money

Give him some space to spend money

Many marriages are now jointly managing their finances, a great recipe for a fulfilling marriage. However there is always that desire in every man for some leeway in spending. Your man feels suffocated when he has to account for every coin or when he has to discuss every need including sending his mother some money for the her personal use. Whereas it is important to keep joint decisions in significant expenses it helps to give your man some space to make some spending decisions. Interesting most men won’t bother with your normal spending as a woman unless it gets overboard.